Tag: life and death

There is a field

A parenting tactic, one I really like, is to suggest to children that the coulds, and woulds, and shoulds be removed from the conversation. This is a magnificent way of redirecting the finger often pointing any way other than inward. I find this to be an interesting parallel now after the passing of my husband.…

The Riverwalk

I grew up three blocks from here, near the fast-paced, cool waters of the Clackamas river. That isn’t quite true; they aren’t cool, they are dangerously, deceptively cold. Someone drowned near here a few days ago, again. This one was 21. We took a walk yesterday–my mother, my daughter, and I–above the river, about mid-day.…